On this blog, I am not going to withhold from any topic, be to do with your body, something embarrassing or something that could be considered downright dark. So in this blog post, I am going to be talking about the ‘bad’ days that can come along with depression. A lot of people paint depression as something which has you bedridden all day every day, unable to smile or even talk to anyone. For some people this can be the case, but not for everyone. We all react differently to illness’, and mental illness happens exactly the same. Some are badly affected by it physically, some are badly affected mentally and some are able to make it through the day to struggle at night.
I am one of those people who changes on a day-to-day basis; some days I am able to go out to work and socialize and be pretty damn normal, but other days I can find myself unable to get out of bed neglecting basic hygiene and not even having the energy or effort to get my phone or laptop out to do anything. Pretty tragic (and gross) I know.
Personally, I find when I am going through a ‘bad day’ I convince myself that I am even worse for not doing anything which then de-motivates me from doing anything else and getting more upset and I get stuck in that vicious cycle. What I’ve had to learn recently with the help of my friends is that
IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY.
We all have days where we don’t feel up to socialising or where we want to withdraw from the world, just sadly for those of us with depression they can seem quite frequent but there’s nothing wrong with that. The only ‘wrong’ thing (wrong in quote marks to show not actually wrong, just my opinion) is how we have come to believe these days are shameful and to be hidden.
It’s okay to cancel plans if you don’t have the energy to go to them, it’s okay to not answer texts until a later point and you feel ready to do so, and it’s ESPECIALLY okay to take the time to yourself when you need it and rest. I know it’s an annoying analogy that we’ve all had repeated to us many a time and we think it’s bullshit, but it honestly is the same as having like a broken leg. You’re wounded and I get exercising what you can do with the injury and learning to live with it can help, but afterward, you need time to rest and recharge yourself or you’ll only make it worse. And there is nothing wrong with that. You need to do what it takes for YOU to feel better. You’re the one who has to deal with the pain and now what you can and can’t take so only you can decide what you can and can’t do for a day.
The only thing that is not okay is to be ashamed to tell people no, and when you’re having a bad day and need to rest that’s the perfect time to say no to plans. Plus, if the people they’re with really care about you, they’ll completely 110% understand and support your decision to look after yourself.